Friday, March 31, 2017

Talking About It: Opening Up the Lines of Communication

In the last post, we talked about potential problems that could befall an intact male. The fact is that, even though problems are rare, they can and do occur. However intact males face an even bigger challenge; talking about it.

As it was discussed, because problems are rare, chances are you're not suffering any kind of problem, and what you are experiencing is normal. But, how are you supposed to know?

Especially if you're an American male, it doesn't help that information regarding the male reproductive organ in the USA is mostly geared towards circumcision. As the US has a for-profit medical system, doctors will most likely tell you that you have a condition called "foreskin," and it must be cured right away, and that conveniently they can be the ones to do it.

Believe it or not, even though the great majority of  men it the world are intact (something like over 70%), men in other parts of the world often stay silent about any problems they have or think they have too.


Talking about the penis in many cultures is a taboo subject!

Saying the word "penis" is a horrific thought in and of itself, let alone telling someone you think you might have a problem. We have special words like "down there," "plumbing" and "junk" to avoid having to call it what it is.

As a result, we have a situation where men are in the dark about their own bodies. They don't know what is "normal" or "abnormal." Even in countries where anatomically correct male organs are the norm, men and even their parents are simply unaware of the normal development of male organs.

So what to do?

Start Talking About It
First and foremost, we need to work on changing the society in which we live; it needs to become  normal and acceptable to talk about our bodies.

"Penis" isn't a bad word.

This applies everywhere, not just the US.

Perhaps it's because of Western Society's Judeo-Christian roots that men are ashamed to talk about their problems; if men are suffering, or think there might be something wrong with their reproductive organs, the tendency is for men to remain silent and try to pretend like everything is OK.

A man may not even be suffering a problem at all, but without any feedback from anyone, there is no way for him to be sure.

This generation needs to work on breaking this silence.

Fathers need to tell their sons it's OK for them to ask them any questions regarding their bodies.

Boys and men mustn't be ashamed to share their insecurities with someone they trust.

We must eliminate the stigma of talking about our genitals outside the context of comedy.

Particularly in the US, men need to become aware that in the medical community information regarding anatomically correct male organs is often lacking, and often misinformed if at all present.

Intact men need to educate themselves regarding their own bodies (the information is out there, you've just got to look, because American doctors will not give it to you), and pay it forward.

We need to tell other men that it is safe to talk about their problems with us.

If we have children, we need to tell them and let them know from a very young age that they can talk to us about anything, and mean it.

When fathers speak to their children about sex, they need to come straight out and say "This is how your penis works. If you can't pull your foreskin back, don't worry. This is normal for your age, and you shouldn't be worried."

Educating ourselves and helping educate others can help save us so much trouble.

If you think you have a problem, you shouldn't suffer in silence.

Information and links to medical literature will be available on this blog. We are working on bringing you a list of intact friendly doctors. We will post links to medical resources.

We have started a page on Facebook to coincide with this blog. If you have any questions, feel free to ask in the comments below, or visit our Facebook page here. Other intact and restoring men will be there for you to ask questions and/or give their feedback.

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